TO WANDER : to follow a path with many turns
Personal freedom starts with a decision. Every decision has two choices, the choice to choose fear and the choice to choose growth. Growth and fear cannot inhabit the same space. Stay imprisoned by choosing fear and growth becomes unavailable. Experience possibility by choosing growth and leave fear behind.
Sounds easy, and it is, so why is it so hard to say yes to growth, to expansion, to possibility? In the words of Kyle Cease, “the mind can measure what it can lose but it can’t measure what it can gain.” The mind is afraid of what it doesn’t know or hasn’t experienced before. So how do you start choosing growth over fear? Simple, with love. Fear lives in the mind and uses past experiences to gauge future outcomes. Growth is measured in the heart and requires new experiences to expand and shift one’s consciousness.
This is the lesson that has inspired me to create this blog and share what it means to be free.
Who I am is no longer defined by anyone’s validation, approval, judgment, love or desire of me.
The idea for this blog came to me during a morning meditation. I had many ideas for what I wanted to do with it and as I reflected and brainstormed, there was no question that it would serve a greater purpose of fulfilling my mission to help free women of their dependence on external sources of love and validation as well as to share my love of self-discovery and travel.
Along with a love of personal development and the desire to help others heal from emotional trauma, I’m also passionate about “freedom”; lifestyle freedom in addition to emotional freedom and so this blog is for the freedom seekers, the big picture seers, the learners, the experience seekers, the outsiders, the ones who think outside of the box, the daydreamers, the tinkerers, the travelers, the observers, the truth-seekers, the wanderers, the ones who wonder, the music lovers, the nature lovers, the philosophers, the language lovers, the undecided ones, the dabblers, the researchers, the problem solvers and the tea drinkers.
I am a survivor of childhood sexual, physical and emotional abuse. In adulthood, the effects of my childhood abuse played out in love and sex addiction and intimacy avoidance. I was a serial monogamist, desperately seeking The One who could take away my misery and bestow me with self-worth but I only succeeded in leaving behind a trail of broken hearts on both sides.
As a recovered love and sex addict and intimacy avoidant, I understand how trauma can deeply affect one’s emotional health and ability to live a full, happy and enriching life.
Once I became ready to acknowledge that I was the common denominator in my dysfunctional life and realized that change had to come from within, I gained a deeper understanding of how my past conditioning and traumas created the unconscious rules I was living by; rules I unwittingly allowed to control my life and relationships.
I discovered hypnotherapy and it had a tremendous impact on my personal healing and soon after I bit the personal development bug. I absorbed books on healing trauma, love addiction and living consciously. Once I became conscious of the unconscious rules I was living by, I adopted tools to help me regain control over my emotional state and began making better-informed choices about how I live and love.
Climbing out of my deep, dark hole of despair took courage and support. It required courage and support to look at those inner hurts to find the fuel to transform those hurts into power, into self-awareness, into intention, into confidence, into trust, into self-love, into happiness, into joy and peace.
The journey continues and I am now passionate about helping others uncover the unconscious rules controlling the destiny of their lives and create conscious, enriching lives and relationships.
I no longer make choices based on self-constructed subconscious fears and instead use self-awareness to deconstruct self-destructive patterns and behaviors.
If my story resonates with you and you want to learn how to create meaning in your life and relationships, untethered by the emotional baggage of the past, then I want to invite you into a deeper conversation with me.